Life is an experiment.. agreed, if u put a wrong "chemical" into the experiment, what you get is failure and personally I feel failure is not scary, what's makes it different, is how we approach these failure.. some learn from the failure, some get depressed and knocked down by these failure.. failure is never the main reason if u fail, but is your perspective you choose when u fail, and the method u used to approach it.. like me I would truly say I failed in my 20+ years of life,look down by everyone, being compared in a "bad way" in the sense of not being worst than me, neglected, but so what? Does it define me? No! I may be affected by these negative emotions, and some times reflected in a wrong way.. but do I just give up on my life ? No! Do I want to give up on my life and let those people to laugh even when they attend to my funeral? No! They are those toxic people who wants to degrade you and makes u rethink about your worth.. but does it define u? No! These toxic people always tries to make u feel unloved and think you are the failure of ur life, so do u want to choose to follow what they want u to see or do u want to be a better person because of these experiences? Choices.. choices you make upon these "failures".. choices ..